I’m chatting with Don’t-be-Scared. He’s one year younger than me, Punjabi, works on Wall Street in Oil Gas and has a voice that is verbal deliciousness! And he’s GORGEOUS in that “too-cool-for-you” desi manner. He strikes me as the type of man who only dates the really, thin, coiffed, manicured, prissy desi girls. But he seems really interested in me, which is great because I used to be really overweight and I sometimes I still see myself as chubby and unattractive.
We decide to meet the same night as the Rockefeller Christmas Tree lighting. Bad idea. So we venture further east and end up at the Midtown East W. He orders a wine for him and club soda for me. He, too like Dr. Comb-Over (Post 114) asks why I am not drinking. And again I say because my personal trainer encouraged me to cut out alcohol. And no joke I have not been this thin or fit in 15 years.
“So, how long have you been on the matrimonial site?” I ask. “About 11 months,” he replies. I nod and reply, “Me too.” “My goal was to meet someone this year and get married,” Don’t-be-Scared shares. There are roughly 6 weeks left in 2007 so he doesn’t have much time, which leads me to ask, “What is your success rate at meeting women you like?” “It’s okay. But sometimes I run into someone I dated and it’s awkward.” “Why?” I ask. “Well it’s disconcerting when they’re into me and I’m not into them. And then they act weird.” He is either conceited or a serial crazy dater. “How mad can a woman get after two dates? Because, really, only crazy people invest that quickly,” I ask. He agrees and laughs.
A strange look flashes across his face which prompts me to suddenly ask, “How many women have you dated this year?” He sets his drink on the table and looks me straight in the eye and says, “I don’t want you to be scared...” DANGER! “A lot,” he says. “How many?” I ask. “Well, you make 73.”
Where does he have all that time? To arrange two dates a week means he had to spend at least two hours emailing or chatting per woman before each date. And how is he keeping our names straight? Ugh, he must be the worst kind of desi, a player who want me to know he’s a player! Or he is REALLY picky and no woman will ever be good enough for him. Either way, I remind myself that people tell you who they, you have to be paying attention ... and clearly this is a man who says he wants to settle down, but doesn't, which is okay … because I say ... NEXT …