Sunday, October 10, 2010


A few days after my Broke Back date, he sends a note through the matrimonial site.

Email to: Desi Girl
Email from: Broke Back
Thanks for meeting on Saturday, I had a great time, however, I’m going to be upfront and let you know that I will not be pursuing a 'romantic' interest with you. I believe in keeping doors and opportunities open, whether they be for us or other people, so I would very much like to stay in touch, and meeting up again as friends, if you are comfortable with that. I found you to be an amazingly funny, intelligent, and well balanced woman. Hope this message finds you well and I hope you are open to staying in touch.

It’s okay that he’s not interested. To be honest, I wasn’t interested in someone who has physical limitations. Relationships are hard enough and I don’t know if I’m up for unknowns from day one. I’m healthy and fit and want that in my partner. I shouldn’t have to settle for less just because I am closer to 40 than 20.

Also, I’m curious as to what kind of desi long distance friendship we would have. We are, after all, strangers who live five hours away. I have a hard enough time keeping in touch with my college friends and sorority sisters who I have known for over a dozen years. And frankly, I'm not on this desi matrimonial site for friendship. I need a new friend like I need to be hit by a taxi.
When Harry Met Sally

At any rate, this whole conversation is irrelevant. Broke Back canceled contact with me through the site, so the system won’t allow me to write back to him and say, “nice to meet you, best wishes.” In the long run, the way my life seems to be going, this is best. I’m sure if we became friends; we’d have some when Harry Met Sally moment and he’d he'd kick me Or worse! We'd fall in love, I'd move Upstate, develop allergies to all his pets and THEN he'd dump me. Can you see it now? DOG LOVER DUMPS DESI GIRL.Sheesh! There is only so much desi heartache Desi Girl can take! It is best to avoid it from the onset!


Anonymous said...

Hm... That's what's unsettling about online dating. It's happened to me a few times as well. One never knows the real reason. And I'm a "curiosity killed a cat" kinda girl. I ALWAYS want to know. Even if I don't like what I hear. Good riddance thought :)

101 Bad Desi Dates said...

Dear Anonymous ... I understand TOTALLY what you are saying. I used to really be hassled when dudes would tell me what their deal was. Now it only bothers me when I really like someone, like with Reindeer (tho really he may be gay, which is FINE, I cld have dealt with that ...) and Town & Country --- dunno know what his deal was.

And you will see, a few guys will come along that like me and I will want them to go away fast! and five minutes ago :) ... and some are mean, too, more on that when we get to that point in time!

Desi Girl

101 Bad Desi Dates said...

Dear Anonymous ... ps ... agreed good riddance to all the bad ones! and bring on the good one!

Desi Girl