Tuesday, April 20, 2010

84. DESI GIRL AND TIMELINESS IN THE ADVENT OF THE DIGITAL CLOCK

Do I really I need to write more on this topic? Okay, since you insist.

I may have mentioned that desis (American, Indian or immigrants) -- are tardy. Not fashionably late, but insanely NOT punctual. They operate on IST (Indian Standard Time). It is SOOO bad that I am considering a moratorium on desi friends. And you know these desis are getting to work on-time, so you know damn well they can IN FACT tell time or own  a digital clock.

Oddly enough, I have noticed people in Manhattan are obscenely tardy, too. And not 7 minutes late because the A train had a signal malfunction. Or the M4 bus had a longer than expected driver change in Harlem. Or, that the N track caught on fire and train traffic was re-routed along 6th Avenue. No no no, I mean they show up at 8:42 for 8:00 pm dinner reservations. Who cares that I passed out from hunger!

Maybe they are self-absorbed. Maybe they cannot tell the little hand from the big hand. But, because it appears to be against the law in New York NOT to have a cell phone (that generally comes with a clock), I cannot determine one good reason to regularly show up late. I mean other than, people really don’t value me or my time.

To show up once late, it happens. I got stuck on an A train that took 54 minutes to get to Time Square (normally a 28 minute ride). Show up late a third time, well I better learn to stick up for myself and decline your next dinner invite.

Now, I wish I had ovaries of titanium when it came to men, especially the ones who mistreat me or post two profiles online …

6 comments:

Peg said...

In defense of those with punctuality issues, of which I am one, maybe it really comes down to the way we see the world. We are perceivers, not judgers. The world is flexible and moving. We can't, and shouldn't try to control everything. There are things we can't be late for, such as church or school or lessons. But we are almost NEVER early. My best advice is to adjust your expectations, and figure that we'll be late. XOXO Me

101 Bad Desi Dates said...

Dear Peg ... but do you show up 45 minutes EVERY time? And you are right I have made adjustments. And I am totally okay with friends saying "I cannot ever meet at 8 pm 930 pm is better."

Do you think it is better to arrive late too? I think you are right about wiring. I dont know how to NOT show up on time! LOL

Samosas for One said...

So what happened with Reindeer?

Anonymous said...

LOL...when I lived in Delhi I think I literally spent half my time waiting on my Indian friends to show up. At first I thought they were trying to teach the silly American a lesson, but then I figured out it was deeply ingrained in the culture. :)

101 Bad Desi Dates said...

Dear Samosas for One ... posting today's daily desi dish ... more on Reindeer coming!

101 Bad Desi Dates said...

Dear Anonymous ... that is funny, you poor thing! How long did you wait on average? Because I have thot about showing up late when I am set to meet friends (non-desi and desi) who show up late.