I wake up the next morning. The telly is on. Matt Lauer and Anne Curry are updating me on what happened while I slept. Rather depressing. I’d rather watch a crime drama.
Around 7.30 am I get off the couch, brush my teeth and wander into the kitchen to make coffee. Normally I wander around the apartment and hang up clothes, clear out my wallet or whatever little 10 minute task lingers as the coffee percolates. But today I lean against the wall and stare out the window. Below me are three bathtubs filled with dirt, with a bunch of plants waiting to be potted. Hhhmm. The super has his own garden out there.
When the coffee is brewed I pour it and some low-fat cream into a mug and sit back down on the couch. I grab my phone and see that I missed a text. As I start typing in my bb password, my fingers don't hit the tiny keys like they did yesterday - and I remember I chewed my nails off.
Text from Town and Country: It was nice to see you and have you here.
What is the appropriate response to this? Thanks, nice to be seen?
Oh Durga, you are a wise and confident warrior woman, can you tell me WHY this is the man I have decided to be so attracted to him that I lose control of my life when it comes to him. From a totally shallow point of view – he is not gorgeous, hot, or fit – I mean yes, I find him sexy – but it is not like he is the desi George Clooney. Maybe it is his accent and his brain and his disposition that sends me over the deep end of attraction – but OMG – why, why, why, why --- do I want Punjus who don’t want me?
6 comments:
I mean if this guy is not making a move on you, it means that he is either not interested in you or he he's keeping you on the back burner. hes probably dating multiple girls and you're just a back up. Firstly i don't really understand why you are into this guy, there doesn't seem to be a deep connection or a rapport. In the earlier posts your friend Meena was making out he was some kind of hot super model and now you are saying hes no George Clooney.
i think the reason why you cant let go of this guy is because there is no one for you to move on to. you're kind of fixated on this guy, he's probably butt ugly. I think you should try network with more desis perhaps join some desi groups.
why dont you date some white guy thats what most desi girls do when they give up on desi guys.
British Born Amused Punjabi
by the way what kind of accent does this guy have and also what does he do for a living.
I hope you find someone, it really seems that you have your heart set on finding the love your life. Its actually very kind and brave of you to share your moments, with the out side world.
Dear Anonymous -
I have actually thought that I have a place in a rotation. And I dont think that attractive people are only attractive bc they are physically attractive. I think really smart people are hot and intelligence is very attractive and T&C is VERY smart, very business savvy, funny and well-read. He comes from very simple beginnings and everything he has he has made for himself - and I think pride, intelligence and hard work is way more attractive than just being hot. I do realize that you clearly think I am shallow - and I cannot help that. Because you dont me and you can only react to what I share. So what I have learned from your posts is that perhaps his good qualities have not come out - so I can work on fixing that - and I do thank you for that.
And yes for quite some time I had hoped to marry a Punjabi guy - an ABCD or someone who had been in the States for a long time - that is who I seem myself as - Minnesotan and Punjabi, not American and Indian - but Minnesotan and Punjabi. I dont know that there is anything wrong with this - it is like being Catholic and wanted to marry Catholic.
I think it is cruel to call him butt ugly - I think he is attractive. Beauty really is in the eye of the beholder.
I cannot tell if your suggestion of dating white guys is meant to have an edge or not - but what is the alternative? If you try and date desi and it doesn't work - then what do you date? Non-desi, right? Einstein is the one who said that the definition of of insanity was to do the same thing over and over again and expect a different result.
You have to move on. It doesn't stop. So if you dont want to get run over, you have to keep running.
xo,
Desi Girl
Dear Anonymous -
I think his accent is yummy - that is all I am going to say. He is a businessman. That is all I am going to say about that too.
xo,
Desi Girl
Dear Anonymous -
Aw, thanks so much for your kind note. I do have my heart set on finding him - and thanks for calling me brave.
xo,
Desi Girl
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