Okay … so I neglected to mention something. When I spoke with Reindeer I did most of the talking (Meera was NOT pleased when I admitted this). And she was less pleased that he ended the call (even if he had to go to sleep). She feels he currently has all the power. (Relationship power, like trying to find a husband, are two things I am going to become obsessed with --- stay tuned).
So yes, I’m a little worried that I scared off a possible desi husband candidate. However, my wooing crimes are evidently a non-issue. Two days later Reindeer is calling to “catch-up”. Men do not call unless they are interested. Phew! Mental note to self, reign in the talking!
In this conversation Reindeer tells me he is an avid yoga fan. Yoga makes me feel like a cliché --- desi girl does yoga and then goes home to curdle her own yogurt. So I share I’m a bit of gym addict who enjoys volunteering. Because I really want Reindeer to like me, I don’t tell him about my dream. In case he wants a “professional” wife i.e. doctor, lawyer, and banker --- my writing aspirations might turn him off. I should have been more worried that I was trying to change for someone I hadn’t even met yet.
The volunteering comment leads Reindeer to reveal that he once bought a homeless man a Big Mac value meal -- evidently from the only McDonald's drive-through in Manhattan off of the West Side Highway in Harlem. Since we’re on the topic of Harlem, Reindeer asks if I have ever been to the Cold Room at Fairway Market. I say no. Reindeer says the Cold Room is SOOOOO cold that Fairway has jackets for patrons to wear. Interesting. I wonder how cold is SOOOOOO cold. After all I am from Minnesota. Then he tells me stopped drinking alcohol in January. Hhhmm. His profile didn’t say he was a teatotaller. So I probe a little and he says, he just stopped, maybe for a year, he would wait and see. Okay, I can deal with that.
At the end of the conversation, Reindeer asks if I would like to meet up next week. Since I have already made a date with the Banker on Monday, I suggest Tuesday and Reindeer agrees.
See Meera (Posts 54, 53, 35, 28, 26, 21), with dates back to back, I do know what I am doing!